Courage To Change

Change sounds inspiring until it starts costing you something. Today we sit with the hard, holy tension of growth: the moment the “old you” can’t carry the future God is calling you into, but the “new you” still feels unfamiliar. We talk about the courage to change when comfort becomes a trap, when your appetite shifts, and when environments that used to fit start to suffocate. If you’ve felt that inner war between calling and comfort, you’re not alone.

We also tell the truth about relationships and elevation. Healing, boundaries, discipline, and purpose can disrupt the dynamics around you, especially with people who preferred the version of you that was smaller or easier to manage. Growth can feel lonely, not because you’re better than anyone, but because you’re more aware. We explore why some connections are assigned to a chapter rather than your whole story, and why trying to drag everyone up the mountain can exhaust you and delay your progress.

Then we slow down and dig into Romans 12:2 with practical clarity: what it means to stop being conformed to the spirit of the age, how Christian transformation works from the inside out, and why renewing your mind is more like renovation than motivation. This is personal growth with spiritual depth, built on faith, discernment, and the daily choice to become whole before the results show up.

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Transcript

Welcome To The Crown Table

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A Prayer For Renewal And Healing

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Yo, what's going on y'all? It is Wednesday. We are back here for another week. With that limitation that I have for you guys. So today I'm excited. Listen up you guys had a beautiful day. Um we are again late again. But nevertheless, um we are here to do the work of God on today and continue in our series. Let it rain down on me, Lord. Every blessing that you have for my listeners' lives, oh God. Let it rain down on them, God. God, I declare right now in the mighty name of Jesus, God, that the floodgates of heaven shall open over the life, open over their family, open over their children, open over their parents, mothers, fathers. Um, that it shall open, Father God, over the vision, God, that you have for them, God, that you will rain down, Father God, your joy, your peace, your tranquility, God, hallelujah, God, that it will surround them, Father God, and their whole entire totality of who they are, oh Father God, God, that you will rain down your love, that you will rain down, hallelujah, God. Come on here, come on, let's say, say, say, rain down on me, Father, every good thing, Father, that you have for me, oh God. Let it say, God, rain down on me, God, God. May it be my portion that may it be, Father God, everything that I need, Father God, God. I need help on today, Lord. Rain down on me, Father, so much so God, where you are consuming, God, that you are purifying, God, that you are refining, oh Father God, that I can be that reflection in the silver. Come on, that I can be, Father God, everything that you have said, God, God, I want to be everything that you desire for me to be, God. And Father God, because I want the rain, I want you to rain down your love and your blessings upon me, Lord. Come on here. God, rain it down on me, God. I need everything, every sense of the word, God. I need you to rain down on me, God. Hallelujah, God. I know that you can, and I know, Father God, that you will, God. So I seek to be in alignment with you, Father, in the mighty name of Jesus. Hallelujah, God. Come on here, somebody say with me, God, rain down the healing of my health, Lord. Come on, rain down, Father God, hallelujah, of making a way out of nowhere, God. There are things that I can't see, there are things that I don't understand, God. But God, if I just if I just can be inside of your presence, if I can be inside of your inside of your will, God, if I can be inside of your truth, Father. If I can be God, hallelujah, inside of everything that you encompass, God. I know, Father God, hallelujah, God, that everything shall be made good and everything shall be made whole, God. So God, help me to walk, God, help me to move, Father God, help me, hallelujah, God, to understand what

Why Change Takes Courage

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you have given me the power to be able to do, God. God, I don't want to be like Moses standing at the edge of the sea, God, with the rod and the power to move, God. Instead of praying to you, God, when you've already given me the ability to move and the ability and the understanding to do what you have told me to do, God. So God, I ask for the courage, God, God, rain down your courage, rain down your confidence, God, to move in your will and to move in your purpose, God, and to move with my head held with my head held high, Father God. That even though I understand what happened in my past, it is not my future, and it is not my current situation. Come on, here, somebody, on this morning, hallelujah. I'm gonna tell somebody on this morning that God has a plan for you, and it's it's it's it's in a magnificent plan. And yes, it might have potholes in it, it might have mountains in it, and it might have uh uh uh uh um um hurdles in it, but I'm coming to tell somebody that God said he goes before you to prepare the way. So if he goes before you to prepare the way, I'm coming to tell somebody on today that the mountain is being leveled, okay? The doors are being opened, um, the potholes are being filled and the hurdles are being removed and every cricket road is being made straight. Come on here, somebody, on today. Hallelujah, hallelujah, people of God. Um I want you to know that you are indeed loved on to on today, God. Hallelujah. Hallelujah, guys. Listen, let's go ahead and get into this episode on today. Um, today's episode, if I just had to pick some kind of title, it would be The Courage to Change. Okay, we're talking about the courage to change. Growth has a cause, not because change is evil, but because comfort becomes familiar. There comes a season where the old version of you can no longer carry the future God is calling you into. The conversation shift. The appetite must shift. The tolerance shift. The environment that once fits you suddenly start suffocating you. And the painful part is this sometimes growth doesn't feel like winning. Sometimes it feels like losing people, routines, identities, and places that once made you feel safe. This episode confronts the tension between who you were and who you are becoming. That's what I need right here, y'all. Everybody says that they want growth until growth starts changing their relationships. Everybody says they want elevation until elevation demands separation. Because growth disrupts comfort. The old you wants uh familiarity, the new you requires courage. And somewhere between those two versions of yourself is a war happening inside your soul. Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Crown Table Unleash. And today we are talking about the courage to change, not cello change, not temporary motivation. We are talking about the terrifying, lonely, necessary process of evolution. So one of the hardest realities of growth is realizing everybody cannot go where you are going. Uh, some people only uh knew the version of you that was smaller, more accessible, more insecure, more dependent, and more wounded.

Growth Can Cost Relationships

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And when you begin healing, thinking differently, setting boundaries, and pursuing purpose or walking in discipline, it disrupts the relationship dynamic because some relationships were built on survival and not destiny. Some people love the broken version of you because the broken version was easier to control. That's why growth can feel lonely. Not because you become arrogant, but because you become aware. You start noticing who drains you, who only calls during crisis, who celebrates your failures more than your success, who becomes uncomfortable when you evolve. And sometimes the grief of growth is mourning people who are still alive. And that right there is what hurts y'all. Because part of you wants to um stay familiar just to keep connection alive. But elevation uh um demands honesty. So uh some people are assigned to a chapter and not your whole story. So that means y'all sometimes you are in a place in your life where you have to understand that uh everybody is not meant to go where you are going, and you have to be okay with that. Um I am a firm believer uh through God giving elevation because I'm telling you, it it never fails. Anytime God gets ready to send me to a next another place that's higher than the place of where I am, there's always some kind of shedding of people and material things. Um, some things, y'all, it just can't go with you to where God wants you to go. And and because we are people, we desire to be connected to people and to have certain things, and we'll try to pull those things up on the climb and and realize that uh uh uh um you you the reason you're struggling so hard on the climb is because God designed it for you to go by yourself and and and and you're trying to carry people with you. Um I want you to understand this that you're that you're uh uh uh uh uh you need to understand who God wants you to take that's your friend, and who God wants you to take that's your family. And if it's no friends and there's no family, hey at the end of the day, you have to be okay with what God has decided um for you to go and to take on certain journeys, okay. Human beings naturally resist change because change threatens identity. Uh, even toxic environments can feel comfortable once they become familiar. People stay in cycles because predictability feels safer than uh uncertainty. That's why many people sabotage their own growth, not because they hate success, but because success requires transformation. Transformation is indeed uncomfortable, it forces you to unlearn patterns, release cop um coping mechanisms, confront excuses, and face hidden fears, and take responsibility for your future. And the mind would often um uh re reminisce the old season just because it was predictable. Um, Israel wanted freedom from Egypt until the wilderness became uncomfortable. Some people pray for new doors while emotionally living in old rooms. And here's the truth right here, y'all. You cannot become who you are called to be while worshiping who you used to be. You cannot be worried about your past, guys. You have to be able to move forward into the glory that God has assigned for your life. If you're walking in the wilderness, what was so big is the Israelites kept wanting to go back to what was comfortable from them, right? They knew food was they knew that the food would be would be provided in Egypt, but uh they didn't have to guess about it, they didn't have to worry about it, they knew it would be there. But when they had to go out and follow God into the wilderness, well there there's no sign of food, but God had to provide it, is where doubt comes in. So God can bring you out of something, uh, bring you out of depression, and you could be walking in a life and and situations will arise that will try to send you back to where you're where you were comfortable. I was safe, I was safe being

Why We Resist The New Season

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alone, I was safe of staying to myself in in the closet in the dark. I was safe. Let me go back into that safe place, but God is not calling you out of something and brand walking you into a new season just to walk you into the same thing God brought you out of. If God has brought you out of a thing, he intends for you to stay out of it, and your job is to believe in God in his whole totality, to say, you know what, I'm gonna believe in God, I'm gonna trust in God in every sense of the word, and I'm gonna lean in on what God has said, and I'm gonna lean in on what God is doing, and I'm gonna uh continue to follow and trust in him in my entire dynamic and in my entire situation, no matter what it looks like. Now, evolution is a decision, it's not an emotion. There comes a point where you must stop asking, will this make everyone comfortable? And start asking, is this helping me become whole? Growth requires courage because evolution often happens before results appear. You change first, then life changes. You discipline yourself before the harvest, you heal before the relationship improves, you evolve before God, um, before people understand you. And sometimes nobody claps while you're transforming. And that right there is real maturity. Because you gotta be okay, you gotta be okay when people don't celebrate you. Right? You gotta be okay when people are not celebrating. You gotta be able to still remain strong. You gotta know that you are still loved, you gotta know that you are still appreciated, right? So, what does evolution, what does it mean? Right? Walking away from what no longer aligns. It means allowing yourself to outgrow old uh mentalities. Evolution uh means accepting that the discomfort is part of expansion, and the biggest one is trusting God with the unfamiliar version of the future. Because every new level of purpose requires the death of an old mindset. So I want you to think about this. What if the discomfort you feel is not a punishment? And what if it's proof that you no longer fit where you used to belong? Would you think about that for a second? What do you think about what if the discomfort you feel is not a punishment? And if you feel that discomfort, what if it is the proof that you no longer fit where you used to belong? Oh, conversation all over the satisfying. You craze a little more than you're in the noise. You feel disconnected from former habits. Your version of you is changing, and your vision is growing larger than your environment. You feel tension between comfort and calling. You feel tension between comfort and calling. So in other words, you know you should be doing something that's greater outside of what you may feel capable of doing, but you don't do it because you you feel safe here. You feel like because you feel like, oh, if I do that, I'm gonna fail. Oh, if I do that, I'm gonna mess it up. Right. And um guys, but that's what that's where God comes in. That's where God comes in for us, okay? That's where we have to lean into God in his whole totality and just stop trying to do it, right? And just give it what's to him. I like Romans 12 and 2, guys, right here. It says, Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind. That by testing you may discern what is the will

Evolution Is A Decision

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of God and what is good and acceptable and perfect. Oh my goodness. Oh my goodness, that is so good. Do you guys understand what that is saying? And here it is right here. I think the biggest the biggest thing, guys, is is is is this big is is this part of this here verse right there. It says all that is in this part right here. That by the testing you may discern discern what the will is the will of God. And I think right there that that's so much power, guys, because if we knew what the will of God was, I just believe that we are people that would just rise up to the occasion. I I I believe that. I really do believe that, guys. That we would just rise. Listen, why would we continue to fight against it if we just knew what God's will was for our life? Wouldn't we wouldn't I believe that we would just fall into alignment of what God has said. Right? So let's let's go ahead and break this down a little bit. So we know that Paul Romans, right? Paul writes to the uh Christians in Rome, Jew and Gentile together, after unfolding the gospel's great uh uh mercy, justification, God declaring sinners righteous in Christ and reconciliation, bringing enemies into peace with God marks the turning point from doctrine to discipleship, how redeemed people now live. The attention is real, believers remain in a in a powerful cultural current of this world, of the present age, with its values and pressures, while belonging to a new kingdom. Paul addresses the danger of faith that is merely private or theoretical, urging a life shaped by worshipable for obedience.

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That's Romans 12 was talking about. Here's our meaning on today. Be not conformed to this world is a warning about being pressed into a mode. World here is not the physical creation, but the spirit of the age. It's assumption about success, identity, sexuality, power, and safety. Paul is saying do not let the surroundings, culture. Your supplier, the template for your desires, your categories, and your ref your reflexes. Sin rarely begins as open rebellion. More often it begins as a quiet imitation. But be ye transformed, sitting on something deeper, then more touch-up. The word implies an inward change that works outward, like a caterpillar becoming a butterfly. Not by polishing the old form, but by receiving a new nature. This transformation is God's work by the Spirit, yet it is not passive. The grammar carries a continent a continual sense. Okay. Keep on keep on being transformed. The Christian life is not an event one remembers, but a renewal one inhabits.

Romans 12:2 And Mind Renewal

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How does this transformation happen? By the renewing of your mind. In scripture, the mind is not merely intellect, it is the inner faculty that interprets reality and directs the will. Renewal means the gospel re-educates us, retraining our instincts, reshaping our imagination, and record and recording our loves. The word of God does not only give information, it gives um renovation. It does not merely tell you what to do, it tells you what is true until truth becomes the atmosphere in which you think. The purpose is that you may prove God, that you may prove God's will. Prove does not mean to put God on trial, but to discern and confirm by experience, like testing metal to find it if it is genuine. Do y'all understand that? Because if you put a magnetic metal against gold and silver, it will not magnetize. But if it has any impurity, if it has any impurity, that metal will latch on to that magnet. Come on here. Come on here. That was a word for somebody right there. Glory be to God. That right there, I teach all by itself. And as the mind is renewed, obedience becomes less a blind leap and more of a clarified sight. You begin to recognize from the inside that God commands are not arbitrary prescriptions, but wise pathways of life. Then Paul describes God's will as good and acceptable and perfect. It is good, morally, beautiful, and beneficial, even when costly. It is acceptable, pleasing to God, and over time increasingly satisfied to the renewed heart, and it is perfect, complete, lacking nothing, never needing correction. The old age promises freedom but often delivers slavery. God's will sometimes feel narrow, and the door yet opens into spacious, spacious joy, peace, and even his understanding. And as your mind is renewed, you do not merely do God's will, you come to recognize it as the truest and kindest will that there ever will be. So Paul's verb is about um uh let's talk about confirmed, right? Um, by definition, to patterning oneself after in outward form. Okay, Paul's verb is about adopting a schema, uh, a passing external mode rather than a deep inner reality. It implies pressure to fit the ages, values, and appearances, not merely committing um isolated sins. The present imperative with um negation carries the sense. Stop letting yourselves be pressed into the world shape, highlighting an ongoing subtle um comfort um comfortability. Now, what does it mean is be transformed? By definition, it's to be changed in form inwardly and truly. In contrast to mere outward pattern pattern, this term signals real change of form, an inner metamorphosis that shows itself outwardly. The passive voice is theologically weighty. Believers do not self-generate this change, they are acted upon by God's Spirit through the means he appoints. Paul thus contrasts superficial rebranding with prof with profound renewal that remakes the person's uh orientation and life. Let's talk about renewing. The definition of renewing is renewal, making new again in in quality. Um, this now stresses renovation, newness uh of kind, not merely a fresh start. Okay, not merely a fresh start. The mind is the faculty of moral reasoning and spiritual perception, thus renewal is not information, addition, but recollaboration of judgment, desires, and values. The result is discernment. A renewed mind can prove, test, and approve God's God's will as good, acceptable, and perfect. Not because God would God will change, but because perception and um um uh evaluation have been um have been healed. Okay. So Roman twelve Romans chapter twelve and two functions as doctrinal evidence that Christian that the Christian life is marked by an inward God, God wrote transformation rather than uh mere outward religious um conformity. This belongs to the doctrine of uh sanctification, specifically the renewal of the mind, as this as the means by which believers are progressively conformed to Christ's like likeness. Um in the un in the unified biblical story, this renewal is not autonomous self-revision, but the fruit of Christ's save uh saving work applied to the believer. Uh the crucified and risen Christ, uh uh man. Excuse me, y'all got a little a little cold on the day. Um I lost my place too. The fruit of Christ's saving work applied to the believer, the crucified and risen Christ um incarnates, the new creation, and the spirit brings the new creation reality to expression to the believer's understanding, desires, and judgment. So that God will so that God's will is recognized and truly good, acceptable, and perfect. Okay, here are some things that flow together with this. Deuteronomy 30 and 6 says God promises an inward work that changes the heart, anticipating the kind of eternal renovation that grounds true covenant. John 3 and 3 and through 8, Jesus locates entry into the kingdom in a divine beginning beginning from above and establishing transformation as a work of God rather than a mere external alignment. Second Corinthians 3 and 18, the apostolic teaching um explicitly connects um progressive transformation into Christ's image with the spirit of ongoing work, clarifying how renewal is affected in the new covenant. Come on here, guys. We are to be renewed, guys. When God presses in on our life, when God is elevating us to greater and to better, we are to be renewed, okay. Uh, we are to be exactly who God has called us to be. Okay. And and and and and that's what's that's what's amazing about it.

What Transformation Looks Like Daily

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Come on here, guys. That is what is what is amazing about it. So guys, I'm gonna go ahead and go ahead and end us right here, guys. Thank you for joining me on today. Um today's episode. Um and um listen, I'll I'm I'm uh it has been um a time here for this season. And God, we thank you for for being a part of our lives and a part of our situations, God. God help us to uh understand the transformation, God. Help us to understand what it means to be renewed in the mind. Um help us to understand what it means to love you in your whole totality, God. Um help us know how to prove so that we can understand your will, Lord, as it concerns us, God. Hallelujah. God is so good, guys. Listen, I hope you guys have a blessed day. Y'all know what time it is. I'm gonna see y'all back here, same place, same time, right here next week, guys. Okay. It's probably not gonna be on time, though. It's probably not gonna be on time. Um, because I'm gonna be extending again next week. So we're gonna but we're gonna keep on going, guys. This is uh as we get through this season, man. This will be coming to a close um here on this season, and um, I told y'all in the last episode we're gonna have these interviews coming up. Um, my wife who's gonna be on here, and I'm gonna have uh Andrew, who is a great brother of mine, so I'm gonna have his voice on this show. Um, it's so amazing, y'all, to see this transformation that is happening to this man. Um, and I'm I'm glad I get to be here and witness it, and I get to see it, and I get to be a part of it, and I get to uh be in the joy to watch God move in somebody's life. I don't think y'all understand it. Um when you are seeing somebody um that was one way, and um you get to see God on them. Okay, you get to see God on their life, you get to see God doing the work and doing the change, man. It is beautiful because it's like, man, that's a testimony, that's real. Um, God, I thank you for what you're doing inside of his life. I'm thank you for what you're doing on his life, man. And um, it's amazing. But I'm gonna have his voice um here on this podcast. Um it is um towards the later of the season because I'm probably gonna run those episodes back to back. Um my wife and then his episode. Um, and um, and and what I was thinking about doing actually, y'all, is I was thinking about um that the season nine, the season eight will end, right? This is season eight, so season eight will end, but the episodes will still be coming out, right? For the like spotted out throughout my off season. Um, and then that'll push us into season nine, which is going to be epic the way I'm going to do this. Um season nine is gonna be like us walking in a museum, guys. Is is the division that I got. So that's what we're gonna that's what we're gonna go with for season nine. Um so I'm excited about that, man. I'm excited about what's coming up for the end of this season. I'm excited about the last episode, this entire season. Um, it's been good. I appreciate y'all for tuning in, man, and watching the podcast. Share the podcast out, man. Share it to the people who you know um who needs the word um on this healing journey. Um, share on this episode. They can go back and catch the rest of the episode so they can get the whole entire teaching. Your journal should be filled up. If you've been taking notes every episode, your journal should be filled up. Glory to God. So you can go back at any point in time and and and do this here thing. Listen, it has been good. I thank y'all so

Closing Blessing And Share The Show

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much for all that you guys do. Thank you for people that have subscribed on the website. I appreciate it. You guys are also amazing. Thank you. I cannot thank you enough um for taking the time to um to subscribe and and and and and and with the donates. It's it's it's amazing, man. It's it's I appreciate that so much because you don't have to do it, but you did it anyway. And I'm one of them people that's like, I'm not worthy enough to somebody to subscribe to me. You know what I'm saying? That's how I feel sometimes, y'all. I'm I just you know, it's just it's just sometimes it's how I feel, okay? Listen, I'm gonna get out of here, okay? I'm gonna see y'all guys, I'm gonna see you all back here next week. Same place. Very time.

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